Be Dismissive of Your Problems
“I’ll give you something to cry about.”
That’s what dad would sometimes say to us when we were little and whining about something (that he thought was) unworthy of our distress. He thought if there wasn’t blood or broken bones, there shouldn’t be tears.
He was completely dismissive of whatever we thought was wrong, and was willing to give us something to cry about if we kept it up. (To my recollection we never called his bluff!)
That might sound like harsh parenting today, but from an LOA perspective, he might have been on to something because Universe does the exact same thing.
When we are convinced we’ve got a problem, and we’re attending to it with the full force of our focus, Universe says, sure, you’re right. And here’s some more problems while you’re at it.
I’ve let thoughts about an undesirable topic monopolize my attention, and watch them morph into something way worse than I started with.
That’s how it works – whatever we’re focused on becomes more.
It works in the reverse direction, too …
Find something to appreciate, and Universe says, yes, life is grand! Find something to laugh about, and Universe delivers more reasons to giggle. Find something to love, and it gives you more reasons to love.
It meets us with whatever we bring, amplifying it in astonishingly creative and resourceful ways.
Cry, and it says, “You’re right.” Laugh, and it says, “Absolutely!” Enjoy, and it says, “So much more where that came from.”
That’s why I’m thinking it might be helpful to be more dismissive of our problems, and more attentive to our pleasures and appreciations and enjoyments.
If we don’t put undue attention on what we don’t want, those things wither on the vine. Without our thoughts, they are unsupported to exist in our world.
This is easier said than done, I know.
But practicing where it’s easier helps grow our skills to deploy it where the stakes feel higher.
That’s why one of my latest affirmations for myself, when I think I’m looking at a serious issue, is to remember that “This is not a serious problem.”
After all, why would I want to convince myself otherwise? What do I think it would benefit to make it a big deal?
Because the truth is the only problems we have are the ones we think up. It’s all perception, and it’s all sourced from within.
So I’m suggesting that we get choosier about which problems we’re willing to entertain, if any. They can’t exist without us!
Yes, there are valid reasons to have problems – contrast is where all desires come from! It’s where the whole expansion party starts.
But maybe don’t get stuck thinking they’re serious, or permanent, or anything other than your own creation that you can create differently when you employ your focusing skills differently.
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